Are you Afraid to Fall in Love?

Does it scare you to fall in love for fear of being hurt again? Maybe you’ve been in love before and it left you with a broken heart. It’s not easy to push past hurts or losses out of your mind but every relationship is a learning experience. Every experience is a risk, a chance we take when we open up our heart.

How can you get past your fears when you’re finding it hard to get over a past relationship? Be courageous. Remind yourself that there are always possibilities. You may not be ready to give your heart to anyone yet and this is okay. Love still dwells in the depth of your heart. You might look to angels for guidance if you’re still hurting from a past relationship.

Don’t feel you don’t deserve to be loved. You are loved at this very moment by your Angels and Guides. You are loved by God, the Universe, the Divine, Spirit. Close your eyes and feel the love.

It can be hard to get over past hurts. Although we seek love from outside ourselves and falling in love with someone is a beautiful experience, it is important to love yourself too. Our life path takes us through many different relationships. Some will stay, some will go as we or they move on. Loving yourself and accepting yourself for the beautiful person you are helps prepare you for those times when you aren’t in a relationship.

The path of romance can be a rocky one. If the person you give your heart to becomes the centre of your world, it’s going to hurt when for whatever reason, the relationship ends. Loving yourself will help provide you with the strength to pick yourself up and look ahead with greater optimism. You will feel less isolated and less reliable on others to make you happy.

If you are afraid to love but yearn for romance, think about why you feel this way. There are many types of fears that might hold you back from giving your heart again. Think about your feelings. Why are you afraid to fall in love? Sometimes childhood experiences can affect our ability to love and be loved. Were there experiences in your childhood that might be affecting you as an adult? Try writing down your feelings and this will help you get to the root of your fear.

There are many reasons why people may be afraid to fall in love again. Not just the fear of getting hurt but maybe the fear of hurting someone else, the fear of losing your identity, of making a commitment with another, of losing your independence. You may feel you aren’t worthy of being loved.

Once you’ve analysed these feelings, challenge any negative thoughts you have about yourself and possible future relationships. When you allow negative thoughts to go round your mind without challenging them, you are allowing these to control you and damage your self-esteem. Try turning every negative thought into a positive one.

You want to avoid future pain and suffering but are you letting the past hold you back? You want to be able to forget it, learn from it then never look back. Everyone is different. Your life is your journey, to explore, seek and make your personal story meaningful. You may have to dig deep and reflect on the failures, successes, triumphs and those negative experiences that have made you feel vulnerable or fearful. To face the fears and heal the pain is to set yourself free and will allow you to fly again.

You ARE Love and when you are able to leave the negativity behind you, you will feel free to give love, receive love and walk forward in love. Some people are happy alone, with their own company. But if you’re afraid to love and yet long for romance, give yourself time to get over past hurts, to face up to your fears and put the past behind you.

Don’t give your power to the past or to another. You have the power to make yourself happy. If someone has rejected you, hurt you or they’ve been unfaithful to you, don’t give them any of your power by feeling sad. As you move forward, try to put it out of your mind. Be busy so you don’t spend too much time on your own. Surround yourself with family and friends who love and support you and who make you happy. Think about starting a new hobby, learning a subject, returning to activities you have always enjoyed. Set new goals for yourself. Accept that whatever the future brings, you are ready, whether this is a new love or new opportunities to help you learn about yourself. If you’re feeling insecure, doubtful, afraid to give your heart, you may need to practice loving yourself before you can start loving others.

Don’t live in the past. Bring your thoughts to the present and start looking forward to a happier future.